Tuesday, 21 March 2017
You - yes YOU, can become Feminine
If you think that you are too plain, too big, too small, too manly, too clumsy, or that your 'bad' past, will prevent you from becoming irresistably feminine - think again!
This is another thing you won't find on the internet. But here on The Housewifely Haven, you will discover just how easy it is to experience your own feminine transformation - whatever your looks, build, or past.
If you are a wife and housewife, or you want to be one; then you can learn to become one of those treasured wives that I mentioned on a previous post, 'A Case of the What ifs'. A man might well admire a clever, independent, high-earning woman; but such women never inspire deeper feelings in the man of integrity. As a feminine woman your life will change; you will suddenly have doors opened for you, be treated with consideration and be smiled at. I cannot begin to describe the wonderful differences that becoming feminine will bring into your life, and into the lives of others. So...
As always, don't take my word for it...
JOIN OUR CHALLENGE!
I thought it would be interesting to study the picture below for a few clues.
This woman appears to have a good figure, probably a pretty face too, and her hair is long (and long hair is very feminine). But she isn't what you would describe as 'feminine'. Why not?
Well, the most unfeminine and unattractive thing about her is that she is coming over as self-obsessed. She is unaware of anything or anyone around her. Her mouth is set in a grim expression and her stride has a manly look.
Her outift is quite provocative isn't it? A woman will usually think that 'sexy' equates with 'feminine', but to a man it comes over as hard or threatening; a general turn-off (except to the man who has other designs on a woman). The clothing and bag aren't doing much for her either; it looks like they have been thrown on without thought. Her priority is her social media, her agendas, and her wish to look 'desirable'. The boots are very masculine too.
A non-feminine woman has very little inner confidence. She is so busy trying to prove herself as 'better than a man.' What is the point of that?
Here is your challenge.
Becoming feminine is done in easy painless stages. These few steps will begin your transformation. Please let us know if you are doing the challenge, and how you get on.
The watchword is 'softness'. How can we appear softer and gentler? We can begin by growing our hair and wearing it loose in a barrette or slide so that the soft hair can be seen. It doesn't matter what age we are: 50... 60; it is a myth that short hair looks better on an older woman! So don't cut your hair when it gets to the awkward stage. Use a slide or pretty hair grip to keep it out of your eyes, and enjoy the lovely, soft feel of your hair. (Plait long hair for night-time or when you need to, it is gentle on the hair).
If you have never put on a skirt before, buy a longer length denim skirt (It will be a bit like jeans, so not too scary). If wearing tights or stockings, an underslip will prevent static cling. After a short time you will feel more feminine, and happier than in those uncomfortable, unflattering jeans.
Smile! A smile tranforms the plainest face and makes it feminine and attractive. Heavy makeup gives faces a hard look, so avoid covering up the soft, naturalness of your face. A little foundation to even the appearance of your skin is probably all you need. Remember the watchword - softness.
Home and domesticity
Put away your phone and get off FaceBook. This is going to be much more fun and relaxing, and contenting!
Make a pot of tea or coffee and sit down in your sitting-room or kitchen. Look around you and see if there is something you can rearrange to make your home more attractive and relaxing to be in. Have a bit of a potter/putter around and take your time. Open the fridge and cupboard - is there anything nice you can cook for tea? The amazing thing about pottering at a relaxed pace is that you will begin to enjoy your home, and discover the contentment of domesticity.
Find a gentle and feminine hobby that you can pick up when the housework is done and dinner planned. Knitting, crochet, drawing, baking, reading gentle books (if you can find a single 'non-feminist book' that is) can be very pleasant and enriching. If you don't know how to knit or sew, learn at a slow pace, and enjoy the process, or ask someone to teach you.
If your home is really a disaster area and in chaos, join flylady.net and get her emails. It is free, and you will soon begin to make a peaceful and ordered oasis that your husband and family can come home to.
Serving and Kindness
Our social conditioning makes us see these words and think 'doormat' and 'what about MY rights?' But that is as far from the truth as you can get. The opposite is true. If you do not serve and be kind to others you will be missing out on real pleasure, contentment and fulfillment. Try it and see for yourself. Make yourself vulnerable by serving and being kind to others. You will develop a gentleness that is irresistable. This does not mean that you make yourself inferior. You are the queen of the home. Femininity will help you to understand that place of honour.
When you wake up, get dressed in your skirt, brush your long hair and smile. Enjoy thinking about what's for dinner, and getting that washing out on the line - so there are clean, fresh clothes for the family... Cultivate a soft voice and manner. You don't have to be on the attack with the ones you love. Put their needs first, and consider what your husband says without jumping down his throat; effectively silencing him. We have been taught to have agendas and get what we want at all costs. The feminine way allows others to have their feelings considered, and yet, the feminine woman usually finds good things and unexpected things flowing into her life without grabbing for them.
Are you doing the Housewifely Haven Feminine Transformation Challenge?
I really appreciate reading your lovely comments, but am unable to reply to many as my priority is being a wife and housewife : )
As always, I will not publish those which would spoil our happy Housewifely Haven atmosphere